Introduction

Some may call me easy, a slut, skank, floozy, or a hoe…you get the idea. And it has taken me years of fighting the dominant beliefs and definitions of these words. For I have never been paid to have sex or perform sexual favors. Nor have I ever had to pay for them. All of the sex I’ve had has been with men whom I was attracted to (maybe with beer goggles) and who were attracted to me or at least my vagina. Because I have been a sexual being my entire life as all humans should be. The asexual people are the people to fear, not the men and women with normal libidos. I digress.

I lost my virginity at the age of eighteen to a man I met that night. A one night stand and like many girls I was taught your first time should be special and with your husband. However I was horny from the age of five when my cousin and I began playing doctor and I also lived a very sheltered life. So of course I rebelled the second I escaped home and went to college. Then after my cherry was popped, I felt guilty, but then slowly one man after another I added to my list of sexual partners. Some of my friends would judge and I would blame it on alcohol and say I would never do it again. And of course, I knew my parents would never support my sexual escapades since they met in high school and married a few years later. But I didn’t meet Mr. Right in high school, college, and now not even in graduate school. But as mentioned, I have met many booty calls, friends with benefits, and one night stands.

My list is well over thirty, I have lost count, and have not updated my list in a long time. Because finally I have successfully ignored the stereotypes of easy women and nymphomaniacs and I am happy with my life, I love it and myself. For I believe Mr. Right will come along eventually. I definitely do want to be in a serious relationship, but my mother always said you can’t look for love. I believe this, however you can look for sex and sexual partners, and for a horny woman like me, I welcome any man who is single, attractive, with no STD’s, and has a good sized penis…at least for a night. I was taught sex should be a beautiful act between two people who love each other. Now I have never experienced that. None of the men I have been with I have loved, some I liked a lot but none of them were even boyfriends. While yes if there is an emotional connection, obviously sex is better. But one can’t deny sex is a primitive physical act. All living things were created to reproduce one way or another. But popping out babies is not the only reason to have sex, otherwise the world would be more over populated than it already is. Thus, I guarantee the statistic of people having sex for pleasure is insanely higher than the people having sex to procreate. Therefore, me having sex when the opportunity arises doesn’t hurt anyone since I am single. The only possible person to get hurt is myself if a condom breaks or a condom is forgotten and I get pregnant or an STD. But that is why they created Plan B, because I would rather spend $50.00 to be safe than $1,000 to get an abortion on top of all of the emotional trauma that comes with it. I was raised Catholic, meaning Pro-Life all the way, so my mom always said if I got pregnant she would raise the child as her own. That kept my legs closed all through high school. I mean what sane person would have a baby that then would be raised like a sister. No thank you.

Therefore, I am writing this to give other horny women like myself strength and empowerment. It is your body and you have the right to do whatever you want, sleep with whoever you want, eat whatever you want, wear whatever you want as long as you are happy and are doing things because you want to. Not making choices because “that’s how it should be” or “that’s what the media says” or that was how I was raised”. It’s bull shit, because I am sure you will all agree with me, it takes a lot more for a man to be labeled a man whore than a woman to be called a slut. We are equal despite we still live in a white dominated patriarchal society where women are still paid only seventy cents to a dollar compared to a man. Even though the visible inequality may never change between women and men in our lifetime, women have to choose to break the norms, stereotypes, and labels ourselves.

For I do not believe women were put on earth to serve men, make babies, and cook. Fuck that housewife shit. I am going to make something of myself.

Disclaimer: I appreciate all housewives and stay at home moms. My mom is an amazing example of one, love you mom!